Write a singles message that grabs their attention


What to say? If you find yourself asking this question, you've come to the right place. Here are a few tips on how to write a great message:

Greet by name. First things first — greet the person you are sending a message to by their Jsoulmate.com user name. This shows them that you know who you are writing to — and adds an immediate personal touch to your message.

Read their profile. Jsoulmate.com profiles reveal a lot about a person. So, before writing someone for the first time, you should spend a few minutes reading about their likes and dislikes, and what they're looking for in another person. When contacting someone, it helps to mention specific things they wrote in their profile. This shows that you have taken the time to learn a little about them before contacting them.

Personalize your message. Take this advice to heart: don't send form letters. A good message is one that is as unique as the person you are contacting. It's easy to spot a message that has been cut and pasted from one person to the next. If you want someone to respond to you, return the favor: show that you have spent the time to respond to them.

Ask a question. A nice way to add a personal touch to a message — and to gently encourage the person you're contacting to write back — is to include a question to them (preferably related to something they wrote in their profile) in your message.

State your intentions. If this is your first contact with this person, be sure to tell them why you decided to write them. Never send a blank email with just a link to your profile. Be honest with them about why their profile caught your eye. Was it their photo, a common interest, or the way in which their profile was written? Let them know why you picked them.

Also, tell them what you are looking for. Are you looking for a new friend to go hiking with or a long-term relationship? If you let them know now what your expectations for writing them are, you may be preventing potential disappointment later. Remember, there is good chance you could end up meeting this person!

Short and sweet. You shouldn't feel like you have to tell someone your life story the first time you contact them. Keep your message short and sweet and share only enough information for the other person to determine if you're the type of person they're looking for.

Keep in mind, too, that comments about what you do on the weekends, and where you live might give away more about your true identity than you'd like.

Include a photo. If the person you are contacting has included a photo with their profile, it's fair game that you include one in yours before contacting them. If you don't want to include one in your profile, offer to send them one via email - don't make them feel uncomfortable by having to ask you for one.

The sign off. Before signing off, let the person you're contacting know what you'd like to happen next. It's okay to ask them to check out your profile or to send you a message.

How you close your message is entirely up to you. But keep in mind that you might scare people off if you sign your message with romantic sayings such as "Yours Truly", "Fondly", or "Thinking of You". Jsoulmate.com jewish singles members often include their first name when signing off - but again, only share information about yourself that you're comfortable with sharing.

Check for typos. Before hitting the "Send" button, give your message the once over for typos and spelling mistakes. You don't want to come across as being sloppy or hurried while writing your message.

Respect their boundaries. If the person you are contacting is interested in meeting men between the ages of 20 and 35, and you are 45 year old male, don't contact them. It's that simple.

Keep your identity private. You should avoid revealing your true identity when contacting someone. Never give out your last name, email address, phone number, or street address.

Getting a response. Jsoulmate.com jewish singles members aren't obligated to write back, so don't take it personally if the person you contacted doesn't respond right away. If someone writes back to say they are not interested, don't write them again. Just move on to the next profile and start the excitement all over again!

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