Online Jewish Dating Services safety - general guidelines

You're in control. The beauty of meeting and relating online is that you can collect information gradually, later choosing whether to pursue the relationship in the offline world. You never are obligated to meet anyone, regardless of your level of online intimacy. And even if you decide to arrange a meeting, you always have the right to change your mind. It's possible that your decision to keep the relationship at the anonymous level is based on a hunch that you can't logically explain. Trust yourself. Go with your instincts.

Here are some guidelines for how to date safely - both on and offline:

Remain anonymous. Don't put your last name, email address, phone number, street address, or place of work in your profile or in any messages you send to other Jsoulmate.com jewish singles members. Remember, when sending a message to another member, to turn off your automatic signatures.

If someone is trying to pressure you into giving them personal information, either blatantly or through trickery, you should immediately stop communicating with them.

Once you're ready to share your email address with a member outside of the Jsoulmate.com jewish dating service, you may want to think about setting up an email address through a free email provider like Yahoo or Hotmail so that you don't reveal your home or work email address.

Go slowly. Set your own pace for getting to know someone. Spend time communicating through email until you feel comfortable enough to actually meet them. Don't be coerced into meeting someone you're not ready to meet — and definitely put the brakes on communicating with someone who makes you feel uncomfortable. Trust your instincts.

Use caution and common sense. If something seems too good to be true, it probably is. Watch for any instances of odd behavior or displays of anger or extreme frustration. You should immediately stop communicating with someone who tries to control or pressure you, makes disrespectful comments, or exhibits sexually or physically inappropriate behavior.

To report behavior like this to Jsoulmate.com jewish dating service, send an email to info@jsoulmate.com

Warning signs to keep in mind. When you meet your date, do they look like their photo on soulmate.com jewish dating service? It's possible that your date isn't very photogenic and looks quite different in real life. But if they look too different, if you notice birthmarks or features that seem different from the photo you are accustomed to, be on guard.

Other red flags include:

· Are they getting their stories mixed up? If your date starts giving you conflicting information, or stutters or seems hesitant to answer certain reasonable questions, be one guard
· Are they willing to speak on the phone after emailing for a while and before meeting in person?
· Does anything about their email, or phone manner seem strange or out of place to you?
· Do they change the subject, act suspiciously or not answer your questions directly? That is the sign of someone who has something to hide.
· Do they seem completely different on the phone than they were over email? Do they seem different in person than they did on email or on the phone?
· Are they controlling? Always trying to set the plans, direct the conversation?
· Once you've met, do they introduce you to friends or family, or are the resistant to meeting your friends and your family?

Jsoulmate.com jewish dating service takes dishonesty and inappropriate behavior seriously. Please email us at info@jsoulmate.com to if you feel someone aJsoulmate.com jewish singles online dating site has misrepresented themselves.

Talking on the phone. The great thing about dating online is that you get to control the speed and intensity of your relationship. If you think you want to take your email relationship to a phone relationship, you should wait a few days and see if the feeling remains - and get to know each other just a little bit better online. It's sometimes a good idea to let the other person bring up talking on the phone first. That way, if you're ready, too, you know you are on the same page.

If they ask for your phone number and you're not ready to give it out, say "No," but ask them for a number you can call when you're ready. If you do decide to call, pay attention to who answers the phone and the background noises you hear.

When you are ready to share your phone number, give them a cell phone number or use a local telephone blocking techniques to prevent your phone number from appearing in Caller ID. Only give out your phone number when you feel completely comfortable with doing so.

Meet ONLY when YOU are ready. You are not responsible for what your date is like or how they behave. But you are responsible for getting as much information as you need about this person to feel confident that you can handle any situation that comes your way. Do your research, do everything you can to make sure your meeting will be safe.

This includes:

· Making sure you're comfortable in the neighborhood, and with the venue you select
· Making sure at least one, responsible friend knows where you are headed, with whom and when
· Making sure you look for odd signs of behavior from your date before you meet
· Making sure you listen to your gut about any strange feelings.
· Making sure you don't ignore warning signs when they present themselves - no matter how well you think the date is going.

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